One of the reason so many of us fall back on referring to ourselves as myself (as in “Lucy, Ethel, and myself will attend”) is because we don’t know whether it’s “Lucy, Ethel, and I” or “Lucy, Ethel, and me.” But instead of guessing and at least having a 50 percent chance of being right, we masochistically decide to totally muck things up and use the word “myself” – wrong in this case 100 percent of the time.
To those who know the rules, hearing or reading “The only person attending the meeting is myself” or “Max, Jack, and myself will see you later” is like fingernails on a chalkboard. And that ain’t good.
Myself and what writer Patricia T. O’Connor calls its self-ish crew (yourself, himself, etc.) shouldn’t take the place of the ordinary pronouns I and me, he and him, and so forth. Learn when to use “I” and when to use “me” and toss “myself” away.
Myself and the rest of the crew, in fact, should only be used in two instances:
Note: We’d never say or write, “Be sure to call I at home tonight,” yet the minute another person is involved we go all wobbly because we’re not sure if it’s “Be sure to call Aida and I at home tonight" or "Be sure to call Aida and me at home tonight." Here’s what to do: Just remove the other person or thing from the sentence. In other words, remove Aida and what are you left with (other than no opera)? "Be sure to call me at home tonight." Voila!